Guess what! My Wen Wen gave me problem again! She had a great bite on my Xuan Xuan’s arm! Have a look…
When I reached home this evening, Xuan Xuan running towards me with a wet face, complaining that Wen Wen bite her arm. Of course I hugged her & wipe off her tears & kissed her. At the same time, I was blanked. I don’t know how to deal with Wen Wen. I can’t smack, I can’t shout at her, I can’t raise my voice towards her as all those are not proper parenting. How? How? How?
I only use my eye contact to tell Wen Wen that I’m mad at her. Guess this little girl is quite sharp & she sensed that something was not quite right, she came towards me & hugged me. I gently pushed her away & told her that I’m sad & I don’t want to talk to her. As expected, “Waa… Waa…” Wen Wen started to cry. Then I asked her whether she knew why I upset with her. She gave me a blank look. I assume she doesn’t understand. Then I started with my grandmother story…I told her that is not right to bite people. I told her that Xuan Xuan is painful & sad. I even asked her, what is the teeth use for? She told me teeth are for eating. Hah! She got it right! After a while of the grandmother story, I hugged her and asked her whether she will bite anybody or not. She told me that teeth are for eating not biting people. I’m now happy with her answer, however, I don’t know when she will bite again…Hopefully this is the last time she bite her sister, else I really don’t know how to deal with it if it happens again.
haha. i'm tellin you, it will happen again. shern also loves to bite people, especially his cousin brother and his kakak. so what i did when he bit me? erm, i bite him too, and asked him if it hurts. he said yes. i told him people will get hurt too when he bites them, he seems to get what i mean, but then, he still bites.
ReplyDeletebut as his speech progress, his biting got lesser and lesser. i guess this is a phase where toddlers express their anger, because words cannot seems to express how they feel.
btw, how old is wen wen? about the same age as shern i guess.
u r really a good mother. never scream and never beat them. I have done all those already.
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