21/7/08 (Monday)
Phew…. Finally I see the sun!! Today is the first day; our life is sort of back to normal… wondering why I said so… another long chapter…
Since end of June, my 2 girls have been under some virus/bacteria attacked. Have been visited to paed almost twice a week, medical fees cost us more than RM 500 for the past 3 weeks! Thank god is all over!!
Don’t know how it get started, but my Wen Wen was down with cough & flu then fever… before she recover from cough & flu she was complaining her stomach ache & diarrhea. That lasted for almost 3-4 days. That was the first time ever, she complain that her bottle of milk is too much (even though is only about 3 ounces). Normally she will ask why we prepare so little milk for her even though the milk is already > 7 ounces. As a mother, I almost collapse seeing my darling chubby acted that way.
When she gains back her appetite, I thought I can jump in joy! But I was wrong! She now on high fever & she complain about her ear pain!! Another trip to paed, paed confirmed that stubborn/nasty phlegm was now filled her ear tube. Gosh!! Wen Wen was really on high fever, until I have to stripe her off & sponge her with water. That lasted for about 3-4 days. This time round, I thought is over but is NOT! Wen Wen’s fever on & off, no choice I have to make another trip to paed. Until the Paed show a long face, as he was also worry on Wen Wen’s condition. This time round, he prescribe a different antibiotic for Wen Wen… that happen last Thursday. Today finally, Wen Wen’s sun is out… she’s no longer having fever, now I only concentrated on the antibiotic. By this Wednesday, the course shld be finished. She went to school as usual. When I called her from office she was so excited talking about her activity in school… Thank god my nightmare is over…
Xuan Xuan’s story now…About the same time Wen Wen sick, my darling Xuan Xuan also down with cough & flu. Whatever happen to Wen Wen, it got spread to Xuan Xuan. The same story repeated itself on Xuan. Not long after the first visit to paed, Xuan Xuan also stomach ache, vomitted but no diarrhea. At one point of time also, Xuan Xuan down with high fever. I have to sponge her as well. The fortunate thing is that Xuan Xuan didn’t complain about her ear … but the unfortunate thing is that she got the eye infection!!! Wen Wen – ear infection, Xuan Xuan – eye infection! My heart is slice into pieces every time applying oilmen to Xuan Xuan’s infected eyes. Both her eyes got infected. Every morning, when she woke up, she can’t open her eyes. I have to use the wet cotton to wipe out all those sticky discharge before she can open her eyes again. Xuan Xuan is easier to manage compare to Wen Wen. Even though she wail & refuse to let me put on the oilmen for her, but after some grandmother story, she will still give in. If is Wen Wen, there will be violence involved. Phew… really…blessing in disguise…
My working days were darm long for the past 3 weeks…. As my heart was being steal by my 2 gals at home. I called back every 2-3 hours to check out their condition. I can’t concentrate in my work. But thank god…. I still manage to get it through…I’m happy that all is over…. Since yesterday, my house again filled with laughter, filled with their fighting noise, their quarrelling conversation & my grumble (ngam ngam cham cham)….
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Friday, September 19, 2008
Our Month of July...
21/7/08 (Monday)
Phew…. Finally I see the sun!! Today is the first day; our life is sort of back to normal… wondering why I said so… another long chapter…
Since end of June, my 2 girls have been under some virus/bacteria attacked. Have been visited to paed almost twice a week, medical fees cost us more than RM 500 for the past 3 weeks! Thank god is all over!!
Don’t know how it get started, but my Wen Wen was down with cough & flu then fever… before she recover from cough & flu she was complaining her stomach ache & diarrhea. That lasted for almost 3-4 days. That was the first time ever, she complain that her bottle of milk is too much (even though is only about 3 ounces). Normally she will ask why we prepare so little milk for her even though the milk is already > 7 ounces. As a mother, I almost collapse seeing my darling chubby acted that way.
When she gains back her appetite, I thought I can jump in joy! But I was wrong! She now on high fever & she complain about her ear pain!! Another trip to paed, paed confirmed that stubborn/nasty phlegm was now filled her ear tube. Gosh!! Wen Wen was really on high fever, until I have to stripe her off & sponge her with water. That lasted for about 3-4 days. This time round, I thought is over but is NOT! Wen Wen’s fever on & off, no choice I have to make another trip to paed. Until the Paed show a long face, as he was also worry on Wen Wen’s condition. This time round, he prescribe a different antibiotic for Wen Wen… that happen last Thursday. Today finally, Wen Wen’s sun is out… she’s no longer having fever, now I only concentrated on the antibiotic. By this Wednesday, the course shld be finished. She went to school as usual. When I called her from office she was so excited talking about her activity in school… Thank god my nightmare is over…
Xuan Xuan’s story now…About the same time Wen Wen sick, my darling Xuan Xuan also down with cough & flu. Whatever happen to Wen Wen, it got spread to Xuan Xuan. The same story repeated itself on Xuan. Not long after the first visit to paed, Xuan Xuan also stomach ache, vomitted but no diarrhea. At one point of time also, Xuan Xuan down with high fever. I have to sponge her as well. The fortunate thing is that Xuan Xuan didn’t complain about her ear … but the unfortunate thing is that she got the eye infection!!! Wen Wen – ear infection, Xuan Xuan – eye infection! My heart is slice into pieces every time applying oilmen to Xuan Xuan’s infected eyes. Both her eyes got infected. Every morning, when she woke up, she can’t open her eyes. I have to use the wet cotton to wipe out all those sticky discharge before she can open her eyes again. Xuan Xuan is easier to manage compare to Wen Wen. Even though she wail & refuse to let me put on the oilmen for her, but after some grandmother story, she will still give in. If is Wen Wen, there will be violence involved. Phew… really…blessing in disguise…
My working days were darm long for the past 3 weeks…. As my heart was being steal by my 2 gals at home. I called back every 2-3 hours to check out their condition. I can’t concentrate in my work. But thank god…. I still manage to get it through…I’m happy that all is over…. Since yesterday, my house again filled with laughter, filled with their fighting noise, their quarrelling conversation & my grumble (ngam ngam cham cham)….
Phew…. Finally I see the sun!! Today is the first day; our life is sort of back to normal… wondering why I said so… another long chapter…
Since end of June, my 2 girls have been under some virus/bacteria attacked. Have been visited to paed almost twice a week, medical fees cost us more than RM 500 for the past 3 weeks! Thank god is all over!!
Don’t know how it get started, but my Wen Wen was down with cough & flu then fever… before she recover from cough & flu she was complaining her stomach ache & diarrhea. That lasted for almost 3-4 days. That was the first time ever, she complain that her bottle of milk is too much (even though is only about 3 ounces). Normally she will ask why we prepare so little milk for her even though the milk is already > 7 ounces. As a mother, I almost collapse seeing my darling chubby acted that way.
When she gains back her appetite, I thought I can jump in joy! But I was wrong! She now on high fever & she complain about her ear pain!! Another trip to paed, paed confirmed that stubborn/nasty phlegm was now filled her ear tube. Gosh!! Wen Wen was really on high fever, until I have to stripe her off & sponge her with water. That lasted for about 3-4 days. This time round, I thought is over but is NOT! Wen Wen’s fever on & off, no choice I have to make another trip to paed. Until the Paed show a long face, as he was also worry on Wen Wen’s condition. This time round, he prescribe a different antibiotic for Wen Wen… that happen last Thursday. Today finally, Wen Wen’s sun is out… she’s no longer having fever, now I only concentrated on the antibiotic. By this Wednesday, the course shld be finished. She went to school as usual. When I called her from office she was so excited talking about her activity in school… Thank god my nightmare is over…
Xuan Xuan’s story now…About the same time Wen Wen sick, my darling Xuan Xuan also down with cough & flu. Whatever happen to Wen Wen, it got spread to Xuan Xuan. The same story repeated itself on Xuan. Not long after the first visit to paed, Xuan Xuan also stomach ache, vomitted but no diarrhea. At one point of time also, Xuan Xuan down with high fever. I have to sponge her as well. The fortunate thing is that Xuan Xuan didn’t complain about her ear … but the unfortunate thing is that she got the eye infection!!! Wen Wen – ear infection, Xuan Xuan – eye infection! My heart is slice into pieces every time applying oilmen to Xuan Xuan’s infected eyes. Both her eyes got infected. Every morning, when she woke up, she can’t open her eyes. I have to use the wet cotton to wipe out all those sticky discharge before she can open her eyes again. Xuan Xuan is easier to manage compare to Wen Wen. Even though she wail & refuse to let me put on the oilmen for her, but after some grandmother story, she will still give in. If is Wen Wen, there will be violence involved. Phew… really…blessing in disguise…
My working days were darm long for the past 3 weeks…. As my heart was being steal by my 2 gals at home. I called back every 2-3 hours to check out their condition. I can’t concentrate in my work. But thank god…. I still manage to get it through…I’m happy that all is over…. Since yesterday, my house again filled with laughter, filled with their fighting noise, their quarrelling conversation & my grumble (ngam ngam cham cham)….
What a Happy Day
20/6/08 drizzling in the evening
Even though is a wet evening, traffic is still at an acceptable level. I reached home about 6.45pm. The moment Xuan Xuan saw me, she shouted: “mommy mommy, I have something to show you!” while she running towards a cupboard to grab the thing that she wanted to show me. This is not unusual as normally she will be that excited to show me all her art & craft that she did at school. Me as usual switching on the TV for a not so interesting show while waiting for her to show me her craft.
Hah! To my surprise, she is showing me this…
A trophy!!! Wah Seh... Xuan Xuan is getting her first trophy at her age of 4!! I’m extremely proud of her! I still remember early May this year, when she show me a notification letter from her kindergarten stating that there will be examination for 4-Y-O class in a week’s time. My reaction was like – OMG, what a world! Exam for 4-Y-O kids, unbelievable! What do they know at their tender age??? Anyway, being a mother I was a bit panic even though I don’t expect her to do well in the class + she’s only 4, to me, my main reason sending her to pre-school is wanting her to have more friends, wanting her to understand the concept of community. I was cooled down quite fast.
Back to her exam, after schooling for almost half a year, that was the first time I do revision with her a day before her so called ‘exam’. Luckily her exam schedule was quite relax, one day one subject – Malays, English, Maths & Chinese. I was quite shock when I come to know that she can recognize quite a number of Chinese words like ‘Head’, ‘hand’ & so forth. Never had I taught her a word of Chinese, not that I don’t know Chinese but then I don’t know how to start. Like English or Malay, I can always start her with alphabets, for Maths of course is 1,2,3… for Chinese I would believe is the stroke, the thing is which stroke, I myself don’t even have good foundation on Chinese. I really don’t want to contaminate Xuan Xuan’s spongy mind by educating her wrong /improper Chinese Stroke. Hard to find a good Mandarin Teaching Guide, maybe I am lazy!
She actually got full marks on all her test paper and I remembered once she told me that she got Number 1 in the class. I thought she was fascinating. Seems like she’s not! She really gets the first place in her class! I am proud! Extremely proud! Shiok! Shiok! What a wonderful day!
Even though is a wet evening, traffic is still at an acceptable level. I reached home about 6.45pm. The moment Xuan Xuan saw me, she shouted: “mommy mommy, I have something to show you!” while she running towards a cupboard to grab the thing that she wanted to show me. This is not unusual as normally she will be that excited to show me all her art & craft that she did at school. Me as usual switching on the TV for a not so interesting show while waiting for her to show me her craft.
Hah! To my surprise, she is showing me this…
A trophy!!! Wah Seh... Xuan Xuan is getting her first trophy at her age of 4!! I’m extremely proud of her! I still remember early May this year, when she show me a notification letter from her kindergarten stating that there will be examination for 4-Y-O class in a week’s time. My reaction was like – OMG, what a world! Exam for 4-Y-O kids, unbelievable! What do they know at their tender age??? Anyway, being a mother I was a bit panic even though I don’t expect her to do well in the class + she’s only 4, to me, my main reason sending her to pre-school is wanting her to have more friends, wanting her to understand the concept of community. I was cooled down quite fast.
Back to her exam, after schooling for almost half a year, that was the first time I do revision with her a day before her so called ‘exam’. Luckily her exam schedule was quite relax, one day one subject – Malays, English, Maths & Chinese. I was quite shock when I come to know that she can recognize quite a number of Chinese words like ‘Head’, ‘hand’ & so forth. Never had I taught her a word of Chinese, not that I don’t know Chinese but then I don’t know how to start. Like English or Malay, I can always start her with alphabets, for Maths of course is 1,2,3… for Chinese I would believe is the stroke, the thing is which stroke, I myself don’t even have good foundation on Chinese. I really don’t want to contaminate Xuan Xuan’s spongy mind by educating her wrong /improper Chinese Stroke. Hard to find a good Mandarin Teaching Guide, maybe I am lazy!
She actually got full marks on all her test paper and I remembered once she told me that she got Number 1 in the class. I thought she was fascinating. Seems like she’s not! She really gets the first place in her class! I am proud! Extremely proud! Shiok! Shiok! What a wonderful day!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
When I was still a fetus...
Normally after I send my Wen Wen to my parents’ house, I will go back to my bedroom to attend to my growing Xuan Xuan. No exception this morning. I still enjoy a lot cradling my Xuan Xuan even though she’s already 4yo. Our conversation begins…
Mummy: "Mummy must carry you in my arms before you grow too big for me to carry" (I carry Xuan Xuan while sitting on the bed. Her ears are very close to my heart and she feels my heart beat.)
Xuan Xuan: "Mummy, why I hear the ‘dup dup dup dup’ one??"
Mummy: "That’s mummy’s heart beat ma… everyone will have to have the heart beat unless the person die. So heart beat is very important, one can’t live without it. Last time when you were still in mummy’s tummy, you hear it day & night…do you still remember? And you love it!"
(Xuan Xuan getting very excited & asked further.)
Xuan Xuan: "Really? Then, mummy,how I sleep inside your tummy har?"
Mummy: "Oooo… Let mummy show you. Off mummy lap first."
Mummy: "When mummy sleep on my right, you also sleep on your right and curl like this."
(I lie down and sleep on my right side then I curl my body,especially my legs. Then I change my position to sleeping on my left, and curl my body.)Mummy: "When mummy sleep like this, you also sleep like this. Sometimes when mummy stand and sit and walk you will sleep like this." (Showing her the upright position with eyes close.)
Xuan Xuan: "Then what toys was I playing when I’m in your tummy?"
Mummy: "Hah! You always love playing mummy’s stomach, mummy’s heart, mummy’s lap, mummy’s lung and sometimes you suck your fingers. Your most favorite toy was the ‘rope’ that link your belly button to my belly button."
Xuan Xuan: "Har… how I play?"
Mummy: "Is time to brush you teeth now, else we will be late, I will tell you more when I’m back from work, ok?"
I quickly drag her out from the bed and we both started our routine for the day!!!
:0) :0) :0)
Mummy: "Mummy must carry you in my arms before you grow too big for me to carry" (I carry Xuan Xuan while sitting on the bed. Her ears are very close to my heart and she feels my heart beat.)
Xuan Xuan: "Mummy, why I hear the ‘dup dup dup dup’ one??"
Mummy: "That’s mummy’s heart beat ma… everyone will have to have the heart beat unless the person die. So heart beat is very important, one can’t live without it. Last time when you were still in mummy’s tummy, you hear it day & night…do you still remember? And you love it!"
(Xuan Xuan getting very excited & asked further.)
Xuan Xuan: "Really? Then, mummy,how I sleep inside your tummy har?"
Mummy: "Oooo… Let mummy show you. Off mummy lap first."
Mummy: "When mummy sleep on my right, you also sleep on your right and curl like this."
(I lie down and sleep on my right side then I curl my body,especially my legs. Then I change my position to sleeping on my left, and curl my body.)Mummy: "When mummy sleep like this, you also sleep like this. Sometimes when mummy stand and sit and walk you will sleep like this." (Showing her the upright position with eyes close.)
Xuan Xuan: "Then what toys was I playing when I’m in your tummy?"
Mummy: "Hah! You always love playing mummy’s stomach, mummy’s heart, mummy’s lap, mummy’s lung and sometimes you suck your fingers. Your most favorite toy was the ‘rope’ that link your belly button to my belly button."
Xuan Xuan: "Har… how I play?"
Mummy: "Is time to brush you teeth now, else we will be late, I will tell you more when I’m back from work, ok?"
I quickly drag her out from the bed and we both started our routine for the day!!!
:0) :0) :0)
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Ting! Ting! Craft Time
30/3/08 (Sunday – Late late evening)
I thought I could have some rest after clearing up, no, no, no, I’m absolutely wrong!
My 2 girls started to chant again “mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy”. The only way to stop the chanting is to make them busy…So we ended up this way…
I drew a simple house, trees & train on an A4 paper. Then I cut some rectangles, triangles & circles from color paper. Xuan Xuan & Wen Wen’s job is to stick those shapes on the A4 paper in order to construct the house, trees & train. Yes, is that simple!
That’s how Wen Wen glues those shapes on the A4 paper.
Then she started to draw the trunk.
I drew the railway for her, and noticed that the wheel missing… and I started to cut some circles for the wheel and she’s now glue the wheel on…
And then noticed there aren’t any windows and doors in the house, and I cut some more…
Ops… how can I do without my birthday girl… These are the photos…
After the sticking all shapes, she drew a smiley sun & herself in the picture.
Look! How satisfy she is with her artwork!!!
I bet you will know which artwork belongs to Xuan and which belongs to Wen!
Absolutely right, the one with smiley sun & an alien girl belongs to Xuan Xuan.
I thought I could have some rest after clearing up, no, no, no, I’m absolutely wrong!
My 2 girls started to chant again “mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy”. The only way to stop the chanting is to make them busy…So we ended up this way…
I drew a simple house, trees & train on an A4 paper. Then I cut some rectangles, triangles & circles from color paper. Xuan Xuan & Wen Wen’s job is to stick those shapes on the A4 paper in order to construct the house, trees & train. Yes, is that simple!
That’s how Wen Wen glues those shapes on the A4 paper.
Then she started to draw the trunk.
I drew the railway for her, and noticed that the wheel missing… and I started to cut some circles for the wheel and she’s now glue the wheel on…
And then noticed there aren’t any windows and doors in the house, and I cut some more…
Ops… how can I do without my birthday girl… These are the photos…
After the sticking all shapes, she drew a smiley sun & herself in the picture.
Look! How satisfy she is with her artwork!!!
I bet you will know which artwork belongs to Xuan and which belongs to Wen!
Absolutely right, the one with smiley sun & an alien girl belongs to Xuan Xuan.
What's next after the birthday celebration??
30/3/2008 (Sunday-Late evening)
What’s Xuan Xuan up to after her simple but warmth birthday celebration??
While I’m busy clearing up the mess, daddy manage to capture this without Xuan Xuan’s realizing it!
She is decorating herself with all her soul...
She is checking on her effort...
The minute she aware that daddy is snapping her photo...
That's a closeup on her...
Lovely! Lovely... *Rolling eyes*
What’s Xuan Xuan up to after her simple but warmth birthday celebration??
While I’m busy clearing up the mess, daddy manage to capture this without Xuan Xuan’s realizing it!
She is decorating herself with all her soul...
She is checking on her effort...
The minute she aware that daddy is snapping her photo...
That's a closeup on her...Lovely! Lovely... *Rolling eyes*
Xuan Xuan is officially 4!!!!
30/3/08 (Sunday)
Wow! Xuan Xuan is officially 4 today! 4 years back, she’s still a baby and now she’s already a pretty toddler! Sometimes she makes me laugh and of course other time she upset me. I choose not to remember those sickly moments and opt to only remember those happy moments with her. I still remember how happy I was when I first become a mother. When I first hold her in my arms…When I first fed her, when I first saw her smiled, babbled, crawled, sit, walked, talked, her first tooth grew! All first! How wonderful for being a mother…
On this day, I remember my mother too! I finally have a taste of sweet and bitter of motherhood. I finally able to feel how much effort that my parents had put in, in raising me up! Even though I know I couldn’t say enough ‘thank you’ to them, I still want to say “Thank you, daddy & mummy & I love both of you very much.”
We don’t have a great & fabulous birthday party, but we had a warmth & lovely celebration. I always believe, a picture says a thousand words.
A birthday cake that can’t do without…of Xuan’s choice!
My 2 happy girls who are excited about the cake!
I wish my Xuan Xuan growing healthily & happily.
May she have all the strength to deal with the challenges.
Last but not least, May she have all the blessings!!
They are having some fun after the birthday song.
That’s my chicky Xuan Xuan!
Wow! Xuan Xuan is officially 4 today! 4 years back, she’s still a baby and now she’s already a pretty toddler! Sometimes she makes me laugh and of course other time she upset me. I choose not to remember those sickly moments and opt to only remember those happy moments with her. I still remember how happy I was when I first become a mother. When I first hold her in my arms…When I first fed her, when I first saw her smiled, babbled, crawled, sit, walked, talked, her first tooth grew! All first! How wonderful for being a mother…
On this day, I remember my mother too! I finally have a taste of sweet and bitter of motherhood. I finally able to feel how much effort that my parents had put in, in raising me up! Even though I know I couldn’t say enough ‘thank you’ to them, I still want to say “Thank you, daddy & mummy & I love both of you very much.”
We don’t have a great & fabulous birthday party, but we had a warmth & lovely celebration. I always believe, a picture says a thousand words.
A birthday cake that can’t do without…of Xuan’s choice!
My 2 happy girls who are excited about the cake!
I wish my Xuan Xuan growing healthily & happily.
May she have all the strength to deal with the challenges.
Last but not least, May she have all the blessings!!
They are having some fun after the birthday song.
That’s my chicky Xuan Xuan!
Monday, April 7, 2008
Oh... My Xuan Xuan (Part 3)
4/4/08 (Friday) (Rain in the evening)
Went back home, Xuan didn’t have homework this weekend so… have to wait a little longer to see whether she can really manage the homework by herself before I reach home… *mummy, be patient*
Oh yes, about the ‘very pretty thing’ that Xuan wanted to show me. Is just a simple craft using paper plate… Forget to bring my camera… will upload the photo tomorrow. Kids are kids, very easy to satisfy! How I wish I could still have that young little innocent heart to be happy with whatever I am having!!!
As promised... this is the 'nice thing' that Xuan wanted to show me...
Went back home, Xuan didn’t have homework this weekend so… have to wait a little longer to see whether she can really manage the homework by herself before I reach home… *mummy, be patient*
Oh yes, about the ‘very pretty thing’ that Xuan wanted to show me. Is just a simple craft using paper plate… Forget to bring my camera… will upload the photo tomorrow. Kids are kids, very easy to satisfy! How I wish I could still have that young little innocent heart to be happy with whatever I am having!!!
As promised... this is the 'nice thing' that Xuan wanted to show me...
Friday, April 4, 2008
Oh... My Xuan Xuan (Part 2)
4/4/08 (Friday) (Still Sunny Day up to 12noon)
Hah! Guess what! Yesterday went back, my Xuan really didn’t finish her homework and waiting for me… After giving her the bible talk… she said she will finish her homework in the future and when I am back from work, we have craft session during the night…. Wahhhhh… seems like busier preparing craft than just accompany Xuan doing her peanut homework!
Just now, I called her to check whether she got homework or not, she said ‘No’ but she said she will check again and finish it before I go home. She also told me that she has something very nice for me to see. Can’t wait to go back home!!!
Stay tune for tonight's craft...
Hah! Guess what! Yesterday went back, my Xuan really didn’t finish her homework and waiting for me… After giving her the bible talk… she said she will finish her homework in the future and when I am back from work, we have craft session during the night…. Wahhhhh… seems like busier preparing craft than just accompany Xuan doing her peanut homework!
Just now, I called her to check whether she got homework or not, she said ‘No’ but she said she will check again and finish it before I go home. She also told me that she has something very nice for me to see. Can’t wait to go back home!!!
Stay tune for tonight's craft...
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Oh... My Xuan Xuan
3/4/08 (Thursday) Sunny but not a hot day (morning+afternoon)
This week seems soooo fast… wondering why??? Because my bosses not around… the whole week I’m able to logon to internet, to update my blog, to read your interesting post, to read some news, to chat…etc… so much fun! So much freedom!
Normally I will call Xuan Xuan from office to check out how’s her day in school. There isn’t any exception this afternoon. Below is our telephone conversation:-
Mummy: Xuan Xuan, how’s your school today?
Xuan: Great! I finished my water today.
Mummy: Good! So, today got homework or not?
Xuan: Got, got two.
Mummy: What is it?
Xuan: One is to write capital ‘D’ and the other is small ‘j’.
Mummy: Ok, please do your homework now.
Xuan: No lah, I wait till you come back only I do.
Mummy: Har?? Why??
Xuan: Because I want mummy sit besides me then only I do.
Mummy: ….. (Slap head)
Normally there isn’t any homework from this pre-school. So I also don’t really bother about her homework…coz the main reason I send Xuan to preschool is to let her mix around so that she is more sociable. Until this morning, I read on a mother’s blog… I got freak-out! So much homework from pre-school… Not that I’m kiasu but if I don’t train Xuan from now, she might not be able to finish off her homework when she goes to primary school!! If I ever work late, how on earth I can have enough time to finish off the homework with her??
I explained the above to Xuan… Will see whether she has finished off her homework or still waiting for me to guide her to do her homework this late evening…. Will see! Will see!
This week seems soooo fast… wondering why??? Because my bosses not around… the whole week I’m able to logon to internet, to update my blog, to read your interesting post, to read some news, to chat…etc… so much fun! So much freedom!
Normally I will call Xuan Xuan from office to check out how’s her day in school. There isn’t any exception this afternoon. Below is our telephone conversation:-
Mummy: Xuan Xuan, how’s your school today?
Xuan: Great! I finished my water today.
Mummy: Good! So, today got homework or not?
Xuan: Got, got two.
Mummy: What is it?
Xuan: One is to write capital ‘D’ and the other is small ‘j’.
Mummy: Ok, please do your homework now.
Xuan: No lah, I wait till you come back only I do.
Mummy: Har?? Why??
Xuan: Because I want mummy sit besides me then only I do.
Mummy: ….. (Slap head)
Normally there isn’t any homework from this pre-school. So I also don’t really bother about her homework…coz the main reason I send Xuan to preschool is to let her mix around so that she is more sociable. Until this morning, I read on a mother’s blog… I got freak-out! So much homework from pre-school… Not that I’m kiasu but if I don’t train Xuan from now, she might not be able to finish off her homework when she goes to primary school!! If I ever work late, how on earth I can have enough time to finish off the homework with her??
I explained the above to Xuan… Will see whether she has finished off her homework or still waiting for me to guide her to do her homework this late evening…. Will see! Will see!
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Mama "shiok sendiri" again...
Today I am in complete good mood as my boss is not around…. Yahooooo!!! Finally I have time to write…
Something light…
Both my girls like to play with their wooden blocks whenever they feel like they want to… I enjoy seeing their build up… very creative & some of them are really nice…
We had this set since August 2007…
Have a look…
I collected these over time… All designs originated from Xuan Xuan…
*Ahem…All Rights Reserved*
More from Xuan Xuan…
These simplier versions are from Wen Wen…
You wouldn’t believe it…sometimes my 2 girls will request me or my husband to snap photo for them if they feel that they have “construct” a nice “building”… that’s the reason we can see the above photos…
They are satisfy playing those wooden blocks, they are even more “shiok” when they destroy it end of the session before keeping it back into its box.
This is another way to keep them busy… and I am free to do whatever I like!!!
Something light…
Both my girls like to play with their wooden blocks whenever they feel like they want to… I enjoy seeing their build up… very creative & some of them are really nice…
We had this set since August 2007…
Have a look…
I collected these over time… All designs originated from Xuan Xuan…
*Ahem…All Rights Reserved*
More from Xuan Xuan…
These simplier versions are from Wen Wen…
You wouldn’t believe it…sometimes my 2 girls will request me or my husband to snap photo for them if they feel that they have “construct” a nice “building”… that’s the reason we can see the above photos…
They are satisfy playing those wooden blocks, they are even more “shiok” when they destroy it end of the session before keeping it back into its box.
This is another way to keep them busy… and I am free to do whatever I like!!!
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Quick Updates
I would like to say ‘thank you’ for being my sincere friends. Even though you don’t leave me any comments but you do read my stories. Few of my friends called me up these few days to check on my Xuan Xuan’s condition after reading my post. My little fragile heart has been touched by your warmest regards. Really though… Thanks Thanks Thanks for being my friend… Sometimes a short call or even a short message will keep the relationship going far…agree?
Alright! Just a quick updates! After that Monday, Xuan Xuan ‘ponteng’ again last Thursday also!! That’s because of the ‘Chap Goh Mei’! No one free to send her to school, what a lousy excuses!!
I send her to school last Friday… so far so good… I’m very grateful to one of the 6-yr-old girl, her name is Yee Teng. She is very very sweet. Since last Monday, she already started to take care of my Xuan Xuan. She holds her hands, bring her everywhere, she talk to her, the way Yee Teng treat Xuan Xuan is just like taking care of a little sister.
Because of her also, Xuan Xuan started to love school. Yee Teng makes my work so much easier… no need to force Xuan Xuan to school.
Yesterday, I send Xuan Xuan to school, I started to look for this sweet girl, but she was not seen. I passed Xuan Xuan to one of the assistance (an old aunty who helps out in the kindergarten). Xuan Xuan is very attached to her, I don’t know why… so yesterday done! This morning, I did the same…. I was looking for Yee Teng… can you believe it, I depends on this little girl to take care of my Xuan Xuan… OMG!!!
I’m not sure whether my mind working properly or not! I pass Xuan Xuan to Yee Teng because I hope and I wish and I pray that one day Xuan Xuan will be like Yee Teng take care of the juniorsss…be more sociable and have more friends. I really want Xuan Xuan to mingle around, I don’t really care whether she can read or write at her young age (of coz if she can really read & write at her young age, I would be pleased & laugh out loud through my sleep!!!).
Do you think teacher or this little girl can do a better job in terms of turning my timid & shy Xuan Xuan to be a brave & out going girl?
Ok, come back to this morning…. When I handed my Xuan Xuan to Yee Teng, she called Xuan Xuan “baby”… so sweet! Then Xuan Xuan gave her a lollipop, happily this girl accepted it… kids are kids, so easy to satisfy & happy. In fact this morning Xuan Xuan was the one requested to bring some sweets for her good friends. Before I left, I reminded her to give those sweets away to her friends. Hhmmm…. Will see…will see…
Alright! Just a quick updates! After that Monday, Xuan Xuan ‘ponteng’ again last Thursday also!! That’s because of the ‘Chap Goh Mei’! No one free to send her to school, what a lousy excuses!!
I send her to school last Friday… so far so good… I’m very grateful to one of the 6-yr-old girl, her name is Yee Teng. She is very very sweet. Since last Monday, she already started to take care of my Xuan Xuan. She holds her hands, bring her everywhere, she talk to her, the way Yee Teng treat Xuan Xuan is just like taking care of a little sister.
Because of her also, Xuan Xuan started to love school. Yee Teng makes my work so much easier… no need to force Xuan Xuan to school.
Yesterday, I send Xuan Xuan to school, I started to look for this sweet girl, but she was not seen. I passed Xuan Xuan to one of the assistance (an old aunty who helps out in the kindergarten). Xuan Xuan is very attached to her, I don’t know why… so yesterday done! This morning, I did the same…. I was looking for Yee Teng… can you believe it, I depends on this little girl to take care of my Xuan Xuan… OMG!!!
I’m not sure whether my mind working properly or not! I pass Xuan Xuan to Yee Teng because I hope and I wish and I pray that one day Xuan Xuan will be like Yee Teng take care of the juniorsss…be more sociable and have more friends. I really want Xuan Xuan to mingle around, I don’t really care whether she can read or write at her young age (of coz if she can really read & write at her young age, I would be pleased & laugh out loud through my sleep!!!).
Do you think teacher or this little girl can do a better job in terms of turning my timid & shy Xuan Xuan to be a brave & out going girl?
Ok, come back to this morning…. When I handed my Xuan Xuan to Yee Teng, she called Xuan Xuan “baby”… so sweet! Then Xuan Xuan gave her a lollipop, happily this girl accepted it… kids are kids, so easy to satisfy & happy. In fact this morning Xuan Xuan was the one requested to bring some sweets for her good friends. Before I left, I reminded her to give those sweets away to her friends. Hhmmm…. Will see…will see…
Monday, February 18, 2008
Xuan Xuan "ponteng" class today!!!
I’m extremely bad mood now! This morning, Xuan Xuan refused to go to school & yes she did skip school today. Not that I agree for her to skip school, that’s the whole darn thing that makes me upset!
The frustration begins…
Early morning, Xuan Xuan told me that she’s tired & didn’t want to go to school. After much coax, she finally agreed to wake up, brush her teeth, uniform on, had her simple breakfast, so far so good. The minute I asked her to wear her socks, she started to cry and again telling me the same thing that she doesn’t want to go to school??? I was like… What?? Why??
I asked Xuan Xuan the reasons that she didn’t want to go to school. She can’t really answer me. After much probing, she finally said “yes” to this question – Is there any naughty boy bully you? I don’t know, and not sure how true could that be, but one thing for sure is that Xuan Xuan is very timid as well as a docile child which I am very pleased with. She hates violence that’s for sure… could it be those little kids’ violence that scares her??? Guess I will have to make another trip to her school tomorrow morning to check it out!
Before that, I scream at her to stop all these nonsense as I was rushing to work (I know I shouldn’t do that but I was really running out of time this morning! And of course I feel terribly bad now). I forced her to wear her socks & shoes & attempted to tuck her in my car! It failed as an evil came!! (My sister is the evil – Not that I wanna call her evil but because of her, it is so difficult to discipline Xuan Xuan. I think only those who stay with their parents or in-laws understand what I mean. When you try to discipline your kid and suddenly somebody just interrupts by saying “he/she is still small”, “they are still kids”, “Give them more time”…etc I just feel like want to kill myself!!!)
Since Xuan Xuan has strong support. She won & skipped school this morning! Arh!!! What a day!!! I hope it wouldn’t drag too long!
The frustration begins…
Early morning, Xuan Xuan told me that she’s tired & didn’t want to go to school. After much coax, she finally agreed to wake up, brush her teeth, uniform on, had her simple breakfast, so far so good. The minute I asked her to wear her socks, she started to cry and again telling me the same thing that she doesn’t want to go to school??? I was like… What?? Why??
I asked Xuan Xuan the reasons that she didn’t want to go to school. She can’t really answer me. After much probing, she finally said “yes” to this question – Is there any naughty boy bully you? I don’t know, and not sure how true could that be, but one thing for sure is that Xuan Xuan is very timid as well as a docile child which I am very pleased with. She hates violence that’s for sure… could it be those little kids’ violence that scares her??? Guess I will have to make another trip to her school tomorrow morning to check it out!
Before that, I scream at her to stop all these nonsense as I was rushing to work (I know I shouldn’t do that but I was really running out of time this morning! And of course I feel terribly bad now). I forced her to wear her socks & shoes & attempted to tuck her in my car! It failed as an evil came!! (My sister is the evil – Not that I wanna call her evil but because of her, it is so difficult to discipline Xuan Xuan. I think only those who stay with their parents or in-laws understand what I mean. When you try to discipline your kid and suddenly somebody just interrupts by saying “he/she is still small”, “they are still kids”, “Give them more time”…etc I just feel like want to kill myself!!!)
Since Xuan Xuan has strong support. She won & skipped school this morning! Arh!!! What a day!!! I hope it wouldn’t drag too long!
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Bad Hair Day!!!
AAAHHHHH!!! I almost scream my heart out yesterday when I reached home & saw my 2 'lovely' girls run towards me trying to please me with their new HAIR STYLE!!
Gosh! Whose art work was that??!!! @*#&$&#$!
Seriously, I really don't know whether to laugh or to cry looking at my 2 girls' short-id fringe. I tried so so so hard to smile at them praising them for allowing the barber to cut their hair short & neat. I have to force myself to smile else I’m sure my 2 girls won’t let anybody touch their hair in the future. *I’m sure you do understand what I mean, right?*
They are so pleased with my compliments especially Wen Wen. She told me that she’s clever cause she didn’t cry & she closed her eyes when the uncertified ‘barber’ asked her to do so. In my heart I was like - *&#$&%^ *please do excuse me for that.*
My husband got a shock too when he saw my 2 little ones with their CNY short-id fringe!!! Arhhhh…. Chinese New Year is just 2 days away! How? How? How?
*Forgot to mention that – My sister is the uncertified ‘barber’!* --- fainted Kelly after all these photos…
Gosh! Whose art work was that??!!! @*#&$&#$!
Seriously, I really don't know whether to laugh or to cry looking at my 2 girls' short-id fringe. I tried so so so hard to smile at them praising them for allowing the barber to cut their hair short & neat. I have to force myself to smile else I’m sure my 2 girls won’t let anybody touch their hair in the future. *I’m sure you do understand what I mean, right?*
They are so pleased with my compliments especially Wen Wen. She told me that she’s clever cause she didn’t cry & she closed her eyes when the uncertified ‘barber’ asked her to do so. In my heart I was like - *&#$&%^ *please do excuse me for that.*
My husband got a shock too when he saw my 2 little ones with their CNY short-id fringe!!! Arhhhh…. Chinese New Year is just 2 days away! How? How? How?
*Forgot to mention that – My sister is the uncertified ‘barber’!* --- fainted Kelly after all these photos…
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Sending Xuan Xuan to her New Pre-school
Almost end of January, we finally able to create a new routine again. Now we are more or less there...
Since this morning I have to help my boss to collect a cheque from a company that is near my area, this gives me a chance to send Xuan Xuan to school. She is so happy when she got to know that I'm the one who send her to school. She is so proud bringing me into her school, showing me some of the familiar area like pantry, toilet & her classroom.
Although she still shy & hide behind me whenever she sees her teachers, I'm more than happy to learn that she now have no fear to her pre-school. At least she brings me & shows me around. I managed to take some photos in her pre-school. She is so happy & proud that I take photo for her & her buddies. Have a look...
When the bell rang, she asked me to carry her to class. I did so and left her after a goodbye kiss. I managed to snap her in her classroom too!
She didn't cry anymore!! (Although there are still children crying!!)
Phew...What a relief! Hopefully there will not be any worries on Xuan Xuan's pre-school!
Yay! Yay! Yay!
Since this morning I have to help my boss to collect a cheque from a company that is near my area, this gives me a chance to send Xuan Xuan to school. She is so happy when she got to know that I'm the one who send her to school. She is so proud bringing me into her school, showing me some of the familiar area like pantry, toilet & her classroom.
Although she still shy & hide behind me whenever she sees her teachers, I'm more than happy to learn that she now have no fear to her pre-school. At least she brings me & shows me around. I managed to take some photos in her pre-school. She is so happy & proud that I take photo for her & her buddies. Have a look...
When the bell rang, she asked me to carry her to class. I did so and left her after a goodbye kiss. I managed to snap her in her classroom too!
She didn't cry anymore!! (Although there are still children crying!!)
Phew...What a relief! Hopefully there will not be any worries on Xuan Xuan's pre-school!
Yay! Yay! Yay!
Friday, January 18, 2008
Looking for a new pre-school
This was last week’s event! Due to limited internet access, that’s the reason you read this only NOW…
Big Thanks to all your precious 2 cents which I really appreciate it much! Yes, like what all of you have said - this old pre-school really not worth to stay-on…
12/1/2008 (Saturday)
After some discussion with my husband, we have decided to skip today’s playgroup in order to find another pre-school for Xuan Xuan. Apparently we managed to find one. This pre-school’s environment is much better than the current one that we engaged with. The play area is spacious enough for kids to run around. The class is conducive & the whole school is air-conditioned. The whole environment is clean & comfortable. I’m happy with the environment. As I told the principal about my not-so-pleasant experience with the old pre-school, she was quite shock to heard about the ‘sticker’s encounter & also children playing water in the toilet.
The principal is kind enough to offer a trial session for my Xuan Xuan next Monday. Nothing much we can do at the moment, just have to wait & see.
Big Thanks to all your precious 2 cents which I really appreciate it much! Yes, like what all of you have said - this old pre-school really not worth to stay-on…
12/1/2008 (Saturday)
After some discussion with my husband, we have decided to skip today’s playgroup in order to find another pre-school for Xuan Xuan. Apparently we managed to find one. This pre-school’s environment is much better than the current one that we engaged with. The play area is spacious enough for kids to run around. The class is conducive & the whole school is air-conditioned. The whole environment is clean & comfortable. I’m happy with the environment. As I told the principal about my not-so-pleasant experience with the old pre-school, she was quite shock to heard about the ‘sticker’s encounter & also children playing water in the toilet.
The principal is kind enough to offer a trial session for my Xuan Xuan next Monday. Nothing much we can do at the moment, just have to wait & see.
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Observation - Xuan Xuan's pre-school!
Schools suppose to be a fun place for children to enjoy their childhood. However this doen’t happens to my Xuan Xuan. I couldn’t bring myself to see my Xuan Xuan suffer anymore with schooling! I have made up my mind to take a half day leave today to check out her life in school. I want to know what kind of encounter/experience that she’s having in school that make her so uncomfortable & reluctant to go to school.
Below are my observations:
1. Most of the children are very active & noisy + naughty (Sorry, Im not saying my Xuan Xuan is good but those children can climb up to the table when teacher is teaching, some go under the table, another one always put his feet on the table…there are more than these but these are few that is prevailing to me.)
2. About 40% of the time, teacher is shouting & screaming at the children for disciplinary issue like ‘quiet’, ‘sit down’, ‘don’t play now’, ‘get down from the table’ etc…
3. All teachers are converse in mandarin 95% of the time. I’m not saying that converse in mandarin not good, but I feel that it is so unfair to those children who can’t really comprehend mandarin. In my Xuan Xuan’s class, there is another boy who can’t speak mandarin like Xuan Xuan. When teacher is talking, half of the time he is either not listening or talking to my Xuan Xuan. All teachers know Xuan Xuan & the boy can’t speak mandarin, teachers can at least translate some of the mandarin to English. Very disappointing that they are doing very minimal on this. Teacher only speaks English when she wants to teach English. That also she is speaking very minimal English as she gives instruction in mandarin. I wonder if Xuan Xuan continue in that preschool, is it healthy? Can Xuan Xuan really learn when she can’t comprehend what the teacher has to say?
4. I estimated that there are about 90 students & there are only 4 teachers in charge. Maybe I’m demanding, but teacher to student ratio is at the high side 1:22.5. The situation gets worse when 1 out of the 4 teachers is a new teacher. I saw with my own eyes that this new teacher herself need guidance & I can sense that she really doesn’t have the flair in teaching. Hardly can she control the class. If she can’t control the class, how do I expect her to teach the class?
5. Even though there are only about 13 pupils in Xuan Xuan’s class, but to me that doesn’t mean that the 4 years old children don’t warrant an assistant. Maybe I pamper Xuan Xuan too much, but I strongly feel that 4 years old is still too young to be independent & can hardly take instruction! There are few incidents that when the children in Xuan Xuan’s class been to toilet, there wasn’t anybody guiding them even though the toilet is just besides the class. End up the children are playing water inside the toilet. As usual, the teacher is just screaming & scolding the children. Are the children at fault first?
6. Hygienic issue. Not to say I discriminate about pets but there’s a particular wild dog keep running into the pre-school. Is a wild dog WILD DOD! I don’t think any of teachers in charge to clean up this dog. There are times when the children screaming & running away from this dog only the teacher chase the dog away. Sometimes the teacher just ties this dog under a tree & I don’t see that the teacher washes her hands after handling the dog.
7. Another example of unhygienic scenario.
End of the period, the English teacher was giving out stickers to all children as a token to encourage them to participate during class activity. This is very good I should say. But you won’t believe how disgusting it is on the way she gave out the stickers. She requested saliva from each kid by saying “Give me your saliva.” & she taught each kid to show their tongue then she put the sticker on their tongue in order to get it wet then stick the sticker on the kids’ forehead! OMG! What an old school thought!! What is she trying to do!!! I don’t know when she bought those stickers, from where she bought those stickers & I am also not sure whether the adhesive is eatable. Would you send your kid to this school when you see this happen to your kid?? I doubt so…
There are more negative observations than those listed above… I’m now seriously thinking about changing a pre-school for my Xuan Xuan.
Below are my observations:
1. Most of the children are very active & noisy + naughty (Sorry, Im not saying my Xuan Xuan is good but those children can climb up to the table when teacher is teaching, some go under the table, another one always put his feet on the table…there are more than these but these are few that is prevailing to me.)
2. About 40% of the time, teacher is shouting & screaming at the children for disciplinary issue like ‘quiet’, ‘sit down’, ‘don’t play now’, ‘get down from the table’ etc…
3. All teachers are converse in mandarin 95% of the time. I’m not saying that converse in mandarin not good, but I feel that it is so unfair to those children who can’t really comprehend mandarin. In my Xuan Xuan’s class, there is another boy who can’t speak mandarin like Xuan Xuan. When teacher is talking, half of the time he is either not listening or talking to my Xuan Xuan. All teachers know Xuan Xuan & the boy can’t speak mandarin, teachers can at least translate some of the mandarin to English. Very disappointing that they are doing very minimal on this. Teacher only speaks English when she wants to teach English. That also she is speaking very minimal English as she gives instruction in mandarin. I wonder if Xuan Xuan continue in that preschool, is it healthy? Can Xuan Xuan really learn when she can’t comprehend what the teacher has to say?
4. I estimated that there are about 90 students & there are only 4 teachers in charge. Maybe I’m demanding, but teacher to student ratio is at the high side 1:22.5. The situation gets worse when 1 out of the 4 teachers is a new teacher. I saw with my own eyes that this new teacher herself need guidance & I can sense that she really doesn’t have the flair in teaching. Hardly can she control the class. If she can’t control the class, how do I expect her to teach the class?
5. Even though there are only about 13 pupils in Xuan Xuan’s class, but to me that doesn’t mean that the 4 years old children don’t warrant an assistant. Maybe I pamper Xuan Xuan too much, but I strongly feel that 4 years old is still too young to be independent & can hardly take instruction! There are few incidents that when the children in Xuan Xuan’s class been to toilet, there wasn’t anybody guiding them even though the toilet is just besides the class. End up the children are playing water inside the toilet. As usual, the teacher is just screaming & scolding the children. Are the children at fault first?
6. Hygienic issue. Not to say I discriminate about pets but there’s a particular wild dog keep running into the pre-school. Is a wild dog WILD DOD! I don’t think any of teachers in charge to clean up this dog. There are times when the children screaming & running away from this dog only the teacher chase the dog away. Sometimes the teacher just ties this dog under a tree & I don’t see that the teacher washes her hands after handling the dog.
7. Another example of unhygienic scenario.
End of the period, the English teacher was giving out stickers to all children as a token to encourage them to participate during class activity. This is very good I should say. But you won’t believe how disgusting it is on the way she gave out the stickers. She requested saliva from each kid by saying “Give me your saliva.” & she taught each kid to show their tongue then she put the sticker on their tongue in order to get it wet then stick the sticker on the kids’ forehead! OMG! What an old school thought!! What is she trying to do!!! I don’t know when she bought those stickers, from where she bought those stickers & I am also not sure whether the adhesive is eatable. Would you send your kid to this school when you see this happen to your kid?? I doubt so…
There are more negative observations than those listed above… I’m now seriously thinking about changing a pre-school for my Xuan Xuan.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Xuan Xuan's 5th Day in Pre-School
9/1/08 (Wednesday)
Same old story. Xuan Xuan told me that she doesn’t want to go to school today. She refused to wake up, refused to change, refused to go to school. This morning’s refusal was stronger than yesterday. However, I’m lucky enough to have an understanding girl. I told her that my boss is going to scold me if I’m late for work, she unwillingly agreed to go to school now as she doesn’t want me to be scolded by my boss.
Even though she had agreed to go to school, she is so afraid that she wanted me to carry her out from the car. The moment she’s out from the car she started to cry as she knew that I’m going to leave her soon. I was sad & was so heavy to leave her in the school but no choice. Xuan Xuan is really a good girl as she still allowed me to hand her over to her teacher. Ok, is done for the day…
When my sister called me about 8.45am, she told me that Xuan Xuan stop crying & is now doing her coloring. What a relief hearing this good news from my sister. I’m now able to focus on my work in view that Xuan Xuan is able to cope with her fear now. This good news didn’t continue long… My sister sms me at about 10.50am, the message said : “Your girl crying now.” Chilled send straight down to my spine. Why is she crying again?? This is already the fifth day of schooling? What went wrong? Where went wrong? What makes her cry?? What should I do now? To quit sending her to school or to continue?? I really really can’t bring myself to see Xuan Xuan with her wet red eyes & nose again. Oh No! Oh No! Oh No!!
When I called her in the afternoon she told me that she got 4 friends now. She told me that she gave 1 of her sweet to a crying boy & teacher praise her. *I gave her few sweets this morning & ask her to share with her friends, that’s the reason she has sweets. I still have not got a chance to verify this with her teacher, so not sure she is telling the truth or not*
When I get back from office, she told me that she doesn’t’ want to go to school again. I explain to her why children need to go to school. I insist that she will have to go to school on Friday. Big No from her. I don’t know what will happen on Friday. I am worry, besides worry is still worry as I don’t know how to deal with it!
I am so helpless & contradicting cause on one hand I want my Xuan Xuan to be stronger & independent (that’s the reason I insist that she will have to go to school even though she might not ready for it) but on the other hand I am extremely worry that if I force her too hard, I might develop an unhealthy perception towards school. How? How? How?
Same old story. Xuan Xuan told me that she doesn’t want to go to school today. She refused to wake up, refused to change, refused to go to school. This morning’s refusal was stronger than yesterday. However, I’m lucky enough to have an understanding girl. I told her that my boss is going to scold me if I’m late for work, she unwillingly agreed to go to school now as she doesn’t want me to be scolded by my boss.
Even though she had agreed to go to school, she is so afraid that she wanted me to carry her out from the car. The moment she’s out from the car she started to cry as she knew that I’m going to leave her soon. I was sad & was so heavy to leave her in the school but no choice. Xuan Xuan is really a good girl as she still allowed me to hand her over to her teacher. Ok, is done for the day…
When my sister called me about 8.45am, she told me that Xuan Xuan stop crying & is now doing her coloring. What a relief hearing this good news from my sister. I’m now able to focus on my work in view that Xuan Xuan is able to cope with her fear now. This good news didn’t continue long… My sister sms me at about 10.50am, the message said : “Your girl crying now.” Chilled send straight down to my spine. Why is she crying again?? This is already the fifth day of schooling? What went wrong? Where went wrong? What makes her cry?? What should I do now? To quit sending her to school or to continue?? I really really can’t bring myself to see Xuan Xuan with her wet red eyes & nose again. Oh No! Oh No! Oh No!!
When I called her in the afternoon she told me that she got 4 friends now. She told me that she gave 1 of her sweet to a crying boy & teacher praise her. *I gave her few sweets this morning & ask her to share with her friends, that’s the reason she has sweets. I still have not got a chance to verify this with her teacher, so not sure she is telling the truth or not*
When I get back from office, she told me that she doesn’t’ want to go to school again. I explain to her why children need to go to school. I insist that she will have to go to school on Friday. Big No from her. I don’t know what will happen on Friday. I am worry, besides worry is still worry as I don’t know how to deal with it!
I am so helpless & contradicting cause on one hand I want my Xuan Xuan to be stronger & independent (that’s the reason I insist that she will have to go to school even though she might not ready for it) but on the other hand I am extremely worry that if I force her too hard, I might develop an unhealthy perception towards school. How? How? How?
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Xuan Xuan's 4th Day in Pre-School
8/1/08 (Tuesday)
Bad news!! Xuan Xuan refused to wake up & she kept telling me that she doesn’t want to go to school!!! I have no choice but to drag her up from bed. She refused to wear the uniform. Again, I have to be stern in order to put on the uniform for her. Luckily Xuan Xuan is a very gentle girl, she didn’t really fight back except to weep with tears. *I’m very grateful & pleased that Xuan Xuan is so gentle & soft, however, her gentleness & softness makes her a timid & dependent girl. Her good points give us the biggest headache now. Her good points are the biggest drawback now*
After yesterday’s long weep, I have learnt to give her a handkerchief to wipe off her tears. I told her that she must drink a lot of water else there will not be any tears when she cries. How silly me to instill this negative value on her, as I really run out of idea to encourage her to drink more water. *when I checked her tumble in the evening, she almost drank 400ml of water within 3 hours, that’s good news to me* I still manage to send her to school in the morning & rush to work, very easily I hand over her to her teacher. I knew deep inside her, she is scared & still uncomfortable being left alone in school. She cried a little after I left.
I was working today so my sister took over my job to check on Xuan Xuan’s condition at around 9.30am. According to my sister, Xuan Xuan still refused to have breakfast in the school. She still weeps with tears. When my sister returned to the pre-school at about 10.45am, she saw Xuan Xuan talking to her classmate with her red eyes & red nose. When teacher asked them to put the book back into their bag, they kept talking until the teacher has to keep the books for them.
I called Xuan Xuan from office, she told me that she now got 3 friends! Wow! Amazing!
When I returned from work, I asked her why she cried. She can’t really tell me the reason. I asked her whether she wants to cry tomorrow, she told me she still want to cry. When I asked her to choose the handkerchief (big or small), she chose the big one & told me that she will cry a lot tomorrow… I prayed hard that she won’t shed as much tears as before…
Bad news!! Xuan Xuan refused to wake up & she kept telling me that she doesn’t want to go to school!!! I have no choice but to drag her up from bed. She refused to wear the uniform. Again, I have to be stern in order to put on the uniform for her. Luckily Xuan Xuan is a very gentle girl, she didn’t really fight back except to weep with tears. *I’m very grateful & pleased that Xuan Xuan is so gentle & soft, however, her gentleness & softness makes her a timid & dependent girl. Her good points give us the biggest headache now. Her good points are the biggest drawback now*
After yesterday’s long weep, I have learnt to give her a handkerchief to wipe off her tears. I told her that she must drink a lot of water else there will not be any tears when she cries. How silly me to instill this negative value on her, as I really run out of idea to encourage her to drink more water. *when I checked her tumble in the evening, she almost drank 400ml of water within 3 hours, that’s good news to me* I still manage to send her to school in the morning & rush to work, very easily I hand over her to her teacher. I knew deep inside her, she is scared & still uncomfortable being left alone in school. She cried a little after I left.
I was working today so my sister took over my job to check on Xuan Xuan’s condition at around 9.30am. According to my sister, Xuan Xuan still refused to have breakfast in the school. She still weeps with tears. When my sister returned to the pre-school at about 10.45am, she saw Xuan Xuan talking to her classmate with her red eyes & red nose. When teacher asked them to put the book back into their bag, they kept talking until the teacher has to keep the books for them.
I called Xuan Xuan from office, she told me that she now got 3 friends! Wow! Amazing!
When I returned from work, I asked her why she cried. She can’t really tell me the reason. I asked her whether she wants to cry tomorrow, she told me she still want to cry. When I asked her to choose the handkerchief (big or small), she chose the big one & told me that she will cry a lot tomorrow… I prayed hard that she won’t shed as much tears as before…
Xuan Xuan's 3rd Day in Pre-School
7/1/08 (Monday)
I don’t feel good after missing the first 2 days in Xuan Xuan’s schooling experience. Finally I have decided to take leave and send Xuan Xuan to school today. As usual, Xuan Xuan was a little worry at the beginning but after some assurance & sweet talk, she seems ok. I told her that I am going to visit dentist and will come back to fetch her after the bell ring. I passed her over to one of the teacher & she seems ok to let me go. I happily leave the pre-school. I thought I did a good job as is so easy to manage Xuan Xuan. In fact, I made the biggest mistake as the bell will have to ring 6 times before Xuan Xuan can go back home. Each time the bell ring, Xuan Xuan is expecting to see me but I was not there. I can imagine the disappointment.
After an hour, I returned to the pre-school to check out Xuan Xuan’s condition. It was meal time and everyone was enjoying their breakfast except Xuan Xuan. The principal was carrying her on her lap. Xuan Xuan was crying & complaining that why I still not back yet. Why I spend so much time at the dentist there. (This was what the principal told me after the school).
The bell ring again, is time for English lesson. The principal left. Xuan Xuan cried even louder to ask for mommy. This English teacher ignored her at first. Xuan Xuan continue to cry & keep calling ‘teacher…teacher…’. Since the teacher knew that I was around so she has to stop and entertain my Xuan Xuan.
Xuan Xuan: “Teacher…Teacher…Teacher…”
Teacher: “Yes.”
Xuan Xuan: “I want my mommy….” *sob sob*
Teacher: “Your mommy is buying some fishes in the market & will return shortly.”
Xuan Xuan: “Why mommy buy fish one?”
Teacher: “Because mommy wants to cook fish for you today.”
Xuan Xuan: “My mommy don’t know how to cook fish.”
Teacher: “Then who cook fish for you?”
Xuan Xuan: “My popo (grandmother) lor, she cooks chicken also.”
Teacher: “ok.”
Xuan Xuan: “My mommy only cook ‘mien mien’.”
Teacher: “What is ‘mien mien’?”
Xuan Xuan: “ Maggi mien lor.”
Teacher laughing: “Ok. Ok. Now let’s sing.”
I listened to this conversation so clearly as I was at the other side of the wall. I can't stop my laughter… Now the teacher knew that I can’t cook – *malu betul!*
Even though Xuan Xuan was crying for me but I was so proud that she dare to speak to the teacher. This English teacher speaks very loud. I’m sure Xuan Xuan scared of her with her loud voice & true enough she complaint about it to me when I went to pick her up. The whole 45 minutes she was whining as she is expecting to see me as the bell has rang so many timessss!!!
The bell ring again, is time for mandarin! Another teacher came. Xuan Xuan was again crying for me. Teacher ignored her again. Another 15 minutes passed, I can’t bring myself to hear her wail anymore. I showed my face. She kept crying. No choice, I believe she had cried to much this morning. I carried her & we left the class 30 minutes earlier.
I said sorry to her as I told her the wrong info. I try to feed her with the correct info by telling her that the bell will have to ring 6 times before she can leave the school. I believe she was frighten & wasn’t had a pleasant experience on her formal first day in school.
I don’t feel good after missing the first 2 days in Xuan Xuan’s schooling experience. Finally I have decided to take leave and send Xuan Xuan to school today. As usual, Xuan Xuan was a little worry at the beginning but after some assurance & sweet talk, she seems ok. I told her that I am going to visit dentist and will come back to fetch her after the bell ring. I passed her over to one of the teacher & she seems ok to let me go. I happily leave the pre-school. I thought I did a good job as is so easy to manage Xuan Xuan. In fact, I made the biggest mistake as the bell will have to ring 6 times before Xuan Xuan can go back home. Each time the bell ring, Xuan Xuan is expecting to see me but I was not there. I can imagine the disappointment.
After an hour, I returned to the pre-school to check out Xuan Xuan’s condition. It was meal time and everyone was enjoying their breakfast except Xuan Xuan. The principal was carrying her on her lap. Xuan Xuan was crying & complaining that why I still not back yet. Why I spend so much time at the dentist there. (This was what the principal told me after the school).
The bell ring again, is time for English lesson. The principal left. Xuan Xuan cried even louder to ask for mommy. This English teacher ignored her at first. Xuan Xuan continue to cry & keep calling ‘teacher…teacher…’. Since the teacher knew that I was around so she has to stop and entertain my Xuan Xuan.
Xuan Xuan: “Teacher…Teacher…Teacher…”
Teacher: “Yes.”
Xuan Xuan: “I want my mommy….” *sob sob*
Teacher: “Your mommy is buying some fishes in the market & will return shortly.”
Xuan Xuan: “Why mommy buy fish one?”
Teacher: “Because mommy wants to cook fish for you today.”
Xuan Xuan: “My mommy don’t know how to cook fish.”
Teacher: “Then who cook fish for you?”
Xuan Xuan: “My popo (grandmother) lor, she cooks chicken also.”
Teacher: “ok.”
Xuan Xuan: “My mommy only cook ‘mien mien’.”
Teacher: “What is ‘mien mien’?”
Xuan Xuan: “ Maggi mien lor.”
Teacher laughing: “Ok. Ok. Now let’s sing.”
I listened to this conversation so clearly as I was at the other side of the wall. I can't stop my laughter… Now the teacher knew that I can’t cook – *malu betul!*
Even though Xuan Xuan was crying for me but I was so proud that she dare to speak to the teacher. This English teacher speaks very loud. I’m sure Xuan Xuan scared of her with her loud voice & true enough she complaint about it to me when I went to pick her up. The whole 45 minutes she was whining as she is expecting to see me as the bell has rang so many timessss!!!
The bell ring again, is time for mandarin! Another teacher came. Xuan Xuan was again crying for me. Teacher ignored her again. Another 15 minutes passed, I can’t bring myself to hear her wail anymore. I showed my face. She kept crying. No choice, I believe she had cried to much this morning. I carried her & we left the class 30 minutes earlier.
I said sorry to her as I told her the wrong info. I try to feed her with the correct info by telling her that the bell will have to ring 6 times before she can leave the school. I believe she was frighten & wasn’t had a pleasant experience on her formal first day in school.
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